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A reply to Ore Fakorede’s “I Told My Mother About You” By Onomesan Oyo



I Told My Alter Ego About You

He met someone and my spirit left my body
I have kind eyes too and my heart can be soft 15% of the time if you are patient enough to wait after I block you out for the hundredth time
I laugh harder than the sound your generator makes{I hope that counts too}
I will not cry shamelessly about things but I’m willing to let you into my soul if you would come for the bus ticket
I know that there is a tallness that has nothing to do with height but I can give you that and every inch of my 5ft’10inch self 😉
I pray like everyone in the world holds hands and sings kumbaya and I write emails to Jesus but I promise you He still replies me
I can teach you many things without opening my mouth too, show you the world through my eyes, my soul and all my different alter egos{I promise I’m not a psychopath}
Your rough edges are reminiscent of  a very beautiful masterpiece that made me pause for almost an eternity the last time I was at Rele Art gallery, in other words I wouldn’t change them for the world
I would also make you the best version of  yourself but I would go a mile further, I would teach you to live for me because it’s so easy to die for the one that makes your heart leap to places you’ve never heard of
You feel lost too, I’m so sorry I can’t do better than her in this regard but what I can promise as a lost soul myself is to hold your hand while we figure out the way out together and yes I’ll come find you too
I have dealt with my own demons too and I’m still dealing {I don’t think we ever stop, it’s just striking a balance between your wolf  and dove}and I wear my scars even more boldly than the costume jewellery I have come to love
I have cracks in my walls too that will perfectly fill out yours, please can you pick me already…
I can’t even measure up to “Her” in the rest so I’ll just have to leave Times New Roman at the table at this point

Ore Fakorede’s “I Told My Mother About You
Dare to Dream, The Interview Series,

The Interview Series:Moriyike Mejabi


What is your name?
Moriyike Mejabi
What do you currently do as a job?
Information Technologist
As a child what did you want to be when you grew up?
Hmm.. That’s a tough one- a journalist, then a designer, anything with travelling!
Did primary school and secondary school shape your ideas about your dream job?
Not really- I didn’t think about it as much- until I had to fill my JAMB form (to get into the University). SMH.
At what point in time did you change your mind about that dream job?
When I filled my JAMB form.
Why did you study what you studied in university? If you have a do over will you study the same course?
I consulted a bit with some successful adults at the time- and just looked at the possibilities- felt Computer Science would be a great fit. If I could have a do over- I now think this field is actually great for me, but I would explore Psychology as well.

How did the ‘’reality of adulthood’’ affect your dreams?
I realized that it’s all about those skills! And you’ve got to put in the work/ effort- even if it’s in practicing the guitar or brushing up on that programming language.

Do you believe your dreams are still within your reach?
YES! I absolutely do. …Because I can do all this… through Christ 🙂

Are you fulfilled with your life? If “Yes”, how? If “No” why?
Hmmm… another tough one. I’ll say yes, I’m content, but I know there’s sooooo much more– In that sense I’m not content! I’m not fulfilled! I want to experience MORE!

What are your hobbies? And does your current line of work give you time for them?
I love to watch movies, and I enjoy music as well, and I like to make things look pretty.
Well yes, when I get back home from work, I can grab some good food and watch a great movie. I can also listen to music even while at work. The best part is that some of the work I do helps me use my creativity as well!
Do you have any regrets? If “Yes”, what are they?
Yes. I should’ve made better use of my spare time in Uni. I also should get better at exploring and sharing my natural gifts and talents.
Will you look back in the next ten years and be happy with how your decisions today have shaped your future?
Yes I would- I’d look back and laugh at some of my silly decisions- but all in all, I will be content.
Do you have any fears for the future? If “Yes”, what are they?
Yes. I worry a lot about the specifics of my future. I know it’ll be wonderful- but the details of how that wonder would come to reality- my future family, geography, career- those are uncertain. That uncertainty is what fuels whatever fears I have about the future, but I know it’ll be spectacular… I just need to rest in that truth.
Dare to Dream, The Interview Series,

The Interview Series:Oluwatobi Bamgboye


What do you currently do as a job?
I am a pastor, a Christian Minister. I am also an entrepreneur, I basically run a vegetable farm and an Agro-business.
As a child what did you want to be when you grew up?
Among other things, I wanted to be a Pastor. I also wanted to be a doctor, or something in the medical line.
Did primary school and secondary school shape your ideas about your dream job?
I think that certain school experiences distracted me and shaped into me what I thought was supposed to be my dream job. I felt I needed to prove a point that I was intelligent. So, against deep personal convictions in SSS 1, I held on to my dream of becoming a doctor which at this point was no longer deeply rooted. The students considered more intelligent in my class were grouped into the science class. I was one of them and following my convictions would have seemed like making a statement that I wasn’t up to the task of coping in the science class.
At what point in time did you change your mind about that dream job?
After my one year pre – degree session, it was clear to me that becoming a doctor wasn’t the path I should follow, it wasn’t my strength but I still continued with one of its neighbors. It wasn’t until my 2nd year in University, that I accepted what my true passion and dream was. I didn’t exactly change my mind, I would say I accepted the already lingering but misunderstood  and overlooked dream.
Why did you study what you studied in university? If you have a do over will you study the same course?
I certainly would not. I still remember arguments I had within me in SSS1 when I  knew deeply that I shouldn’t be in the science class, that it wasn’t my natural expression but convinced myself otherwise to keep up with the Jones’s.
I studied chemistry because of all the options I had in the science department, microbiology and chemistry were the only two courses I felt I could manage, without feeling frustrated. At the end of my pre-degree, I felt I had too much vested in science already, I just picked the “neighbors” of medicine I could manage with.
How did the ‘’reality of adulthood’’ affect your dreams?
It made me see how foolish it was to have accepted a societal convention to live a life inconsistent with my inner essence. I had a total overhaul, though I couldn’t pull out of school to study another course, I had the chance to prepare for my real life while still studying a course I couldn’t wait to finish.
Do you believe your dreams are still within your reach?
They certainly are. They are really big but they are achievable.
Are you fulfilled with your life? If “Yes”, how? If “No” why?
I am not entirely fulfilled, I see fulfillment as a continuing journey of growth. I don’t believe I am there yet, however, I believe I am well on my way to fulfillment as I experience little jolts of fulfillment when I do things consistent with my dreams.
What are your hobbies? And does your current line of work give you time for them?
In no particular order, thinking, teaching, reading, speaking, writing, doing music, and coordinating.
My role as a pastor gives me not just the time but the platform to teach, speak, write and coordinate. Teaching feels like the most fulfilling thing I do. I literally can do this all day.
I still get the chance to do some church music although not as often as I used to. I still compose songs.
Business brings out the strategist, the coordinator and fast thinker in me, the challenges and the targets all serve to give a sort of fulfillment that a routine job can’t give me. I must admit though that starting out has been more engaging than I imagined and it has threatened to take up every available time but that is just a phase and things are gradually balancing out as we set up better running structures.
Do you have any regrets? If “Yes”, what are they?
I did but I have outgrown my regrets. Though it seems I started early. I regretted that I knew better than I acted in the past and should have aligned with who I truly was much earlier than I did. My take on my regrets is that “the earliest time I have to Make a change is NOW.”
Will you look back in the next ten years and be happy with how your decisions today have shaped your future?
I hope so. I believe without apologies that even though I have doubts, if I keep following God, my future is certain. Some of the things I’m now grateful for and comfortable with were things I feared to dare in the past, they were decisions plagued with many doubts. However, I figure that today was yesterday’s future and if today, I’m glad I dared to stay true despite uncertainties in the immediate past, I can be confident that this history might repeat itself.
Do you have any fears for the future? If “Yes”, what are they?

Yes I do. Fears that I may have been wrong, fears that things may not work out as planned. Upon arriving at the present, I realized that my past fears didn’t live up to their threats, so,  I’m learning to live with the fears till my results prove them wrong.
Her Version of Events,

Random Facts: Oreoluwa Abidoye




A really good friend drew my attention to the fact that I haven’t uploaded a lot of  original content on The Over Thinker this year so the month of May will be dedicated to sharing more of myself with my readers from journal entries to facts about me and a truck load of embarrassing things.


So here goes, 10 random things about me that you may not know.


  1. I wave at people in traffic, sometimes I even greet  or give a compliment. I do this because I find driving in Lagos traffic very boring, I like to see the smile it puts on people’s face and the deep look of confusion that flashes across their face when they try to figure out if they know me.


  1. Time to come clean, so the first letter of the Letter Series: Her version of events is loosely based on someone I met in August of 2015, I had this instant connection with the person and spent the next few months getting to know him but I understood that we would never be more then friends and the first letter of the series was my way of saying goodbye to all the things I wished we could be.
 
  1. I have yearly viewings of the movies Love & Basketball and The Notebook, both movies make me very happy. I know I am a sucker for cheesy movies.
  1. I have this bad habit of not eating till I am hungry and it isn’t healthy, I have tried to break this habit and I keep failing at it so suggestions are welcomed.
  1. In my bag at all times you will find a pack of pocket tissue, a notepad, a pencil and part of my key-holder collection.
  1. I collect stationary with my younger sister, from fancy notepads, to coloured pens and neon pencils. I guess you can call it our thing.


  1. I have a breakup playlist, I really love music and the songs on this list give words to how I feel when I have lost in love.


  1. I was afraid of marriage then I stop being afraid, thank God for this.
  1. I wrote a poem of sorts for the last person I liked who didn’t like me back and he went on to analyse what I wrote for days, it was pure torture. I guess he didn’t know it was about him.
  1. I think love is total acceptance of someone, accepting and caring for all their many parts. I have only felt this way once, cared for without restraint.


Feel free to share random facts about yourself in the comments below